There is this one thing about relationship that I should probably tell you though.
It costs something.
It will cost you time, energy, and productivity. Relationship can never be measured with or grounded in efficiency. It might cost you money, advancement, and being a person of influence in your community or larger world.
For me, it means that my summer wasn’t super productive from a writing or home improvement standpoint.
It means that I don’t read as much as I want to.
It means that I probably spend too much money on Frappuccinos, cute t-shirts, and scented candles.
It means that I stay up later to watch something or talk, even though I’m tired and want to go to bed at 9:00.
It means that I sometimes feel inexplicably sad when she’s off with her friends, even though this too is as it should be.
It means that for now, I say no to most invitations for good things like leading a Bible study or doing ministry that others can see because I have to protect my availability and relational energy.
I won’t lie. Sometimes these costs are hard to swallow. I’m independent, creative, aspirational and also an introvert. I like productivity, efficiency, influence, and being my myself.
One-on-one relationship feels the opposite of all those things. But I can already tell you that it’s totally worth it.