‘He Came Quickly and Unexpectedly’—Ashley LeMieux Details Son’s Tragic Birth at 16-Weeks

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For Ashley LeMieux and her husband, Mike, building and growing their family has been a decade in the making.

When the couple announced on March 6th that they were pregnant, they could have never expected the trauma that was to come just weeks later.

 

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After 10 years of marriage, four years of raising a set of siblings, and enduring an intense custody battle and failed adoption, Ashley and Mike have been working through a grief that most people can’t begin to fathom. In 2018, they shared a video explaining that their reason for not having biological kids yet was because they simply weren’t ready.

This year, their hearts were ready to once again grow their family.

After sharing the news that they were expecting, Ashley took to Instagram with several posts, rocking the bump, and even writing letters to the children they lost.

 

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Hey Z, I can’t wait to tell the baby all about it’s older, courageous sister. ❤️ Z, you’re the one who taught me how to have courage. You taught me that courage starts small, and that’s how you know it’s real and there to stay. How you chose to seek joy even during confusion and went from being shy to shining on stage. ❤️ You taught me that courage can happen to anyone. It doesn’t require us to be the smartest, strongest, richest, or most powerful superhero on the planet. It just requires us to show up. And sweet girl, there’s nobody I know who shows up to their life more than you do. ❤️ I know life might feel overwhelming right now, it does for me too. There’s a lot going on. But I also know that inside of you is that 20 seconds of courage that has given you power to do the next hard thing, all throughout your life. ❤️ I love you with all of my heart and soul, and I’m praying that each day we choose to live with courage, is a day closer to seeing each other again. ❤️ We’re not complete or whole without you. And I’m so excited for this baby to get to meet you one day. Even though we’re not physically together, I want you to know that you’re inspiring and motivating me to choose courage, every single day. Love you to the moon. You’re the one who taught me how to get through the hard stuff ❤️

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But last week, this incredible couple endured perhaps one of the most difficult parts of their journey yet.

After suffering excruciating stomach pain, Ashley was transported to the hospital where she was diagnosed with a kidney infection. That kidney infection led to a kidney stone, which led to sepsis.

 

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Baby is okay. 🙏🏽I am… okay. I have never been in so much physical pain in my entire life. • An ambulance drove me to the hospital at 3 AM after experiencing hours of the most intense stomach pain and cramping that made me unable to walk… ❤️ I have a kidney infection that led to passing a kidney stone, that led to sepsis. ❤️ I’ll be here for a few days, and because of Covid, @mikelemieux can’t come in with me. Being wheeled away from him was terrifying. Taking tons of tests and ultrasounds to determine if the baby was okay without Mike with me was anxiety ridden. • There was a point today where my pain was so severe I was screaming. It had been 12 hours of intensity with no relief and I thought I was going to pass out. As my face and arm and legs went numb from the pain, a room full of doctors were quickly called in. ❤️ One doctor who was giving me an EKG kept looking at me saying, “Nobody else can do as good of job as you to get through what you need to get through. You’re doing so good. Keep being you and breathe. This won’t last forever.” ❤️ Thank you for the prayers for the baby and for me. After I got through the worst of the pain so far, I opened my phone to tons of messages of love and support from so many of you who saw Mike’s post. It means more than you know. I’ve got some major healing to do in the next few days, but am optimistic and grateful. ❤️ And just in case you need to hear this today too, “Nobody else can do as good of job as you to get through what you need to get through. You’re doing so good. Keep being you and breathe. This won’t last forever.” • Update: Our sweet baby boy is now in heaven, lighting our way until we hold him in our arms some day.

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Due to COVID-19 protocols, Ashely says Mike was unable to be with her in the hospital, which lasted several days.

“Being wheeled away from him was terrifying,” she wrote on Instagram. “Taking tons of tests and ultrasounds to determine if the baby was okay without Mike with me was anxiety ridden.”

On Friday morning, after days of fighting for her life, and the life growing inside of her, Ashley was forced to deliver their miracle baby at just 16 weeks.

 

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Our precious baby boy, Jayce Michael LeMieux, was delivered at 9:40 on Friday morning. ❤️ The name Jayce means ‘Healer’. That’s exactly who Jayce has been for us. This baby healed us in ways we never thought we’d experience again, and showed us that there is a beautiful life that is still waiting for us to live. Our hearts are cracked wide open again, but this time, we have Jayce as a guardian angel to help light our way. ❤️ At 16 weeks gestation, his body was perfect and healthy, but unfortunately, mine was not. The extent that the sepsis rapidly took over my body created a scenario in which we both couldn’t stay alive. It was too much to have a pregnancy withstand, and is something that is going to take a very long time for me to come to terms with. ❤️ He came quickly and unexpectedly, and I delivered him all alone in a room that was never meant to deliver babies. I sobbed and screamed on my bed, yelling to God that it wasn’t supposed to be this way, as I waited for a group of doctors to come help me. ❤️ After I delivered him, they rushed me to the Labor and Delivery unit of the hospital, which meant that my husband @mikelemieux could finally have permission to come and be with me after days of me fighting alone for my life in the hospital. (I’ll talk more about this later). ❤️ We’re still in the hospital, my body has a lot of healing to do. We spent precious time with our baby boy this morning to say our final goodbyes. His little hat fits in the palm of his daddy’s hand. ❤️ We love you Jayce. I can’t wait for the day I get to hold you in my arms. I wish that I could be where you are. #LeMieuxFamilyOfFive

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“He came quickly and unexpectedly, and I delivered him all alone in a room that was never meant to deliver babies,” Ashley wrote. “I sobbed and screamed on my bed, yelling to God that it wasn’t supposed to be this way, as I waited for a group of doctors to come help me.”

Once she had delivered him, Ashley was rushed to the Labor and Delivery unit of the hospital where she could finally be with Mike for the first time in days. Together the met, and held, and said goodbye to their son, Jayce Michael LeMieux.

“The name Jayce means ‘Healer,’” Ashley said. “That’s exactly who Jayce has been for us. This baby healed us in ways we never thought we’d experience again, and showed us that there is a beautiful life that is still waiting for us to live. Our hearts are cracked wide open again, but this time, we have Jayce as a guardian angel to help light our way.”

Mike took to Instagram with his own message, calling Ashley a “warrior,” and promising to spend the rest of his life sharing the peace and healing that was found in their son.

 

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“As I held my baby, I felt so much peace,” he wrote. “I thought about what [Ashley] went through to bring him here, and I wept. The level of emotional and physical pain she’s endured has left me shattered. You know — when those you love go through the most difficult things, it makes you ache. My core was shaken.”

This week, just seven days after giving birth and saying goodbye to her son, Ashley shared a beautiful encouragement to her almost 300k followers.

“I know that life might seem impossible for you right now. I know that it might freaking hurt like hell, and you might be really scared. But maybe there are some little lullaby’s that are still surrounding you, that can remind you that life, joy, growth, and love, still overpower the darkness. Listen for the lullaby today.”

 

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I can’t believe it’s been a week since I delivered my baby boy. I miss him so much it physically hurts. ❤️ Something happened in the hospital that has given me hope, that I want to share with you. Every time a baby was born, a little lullaby would play throughout the entire hospital. I noticed it my first night there, and it gave me so much peace, fighting for my life knowing that in a couple months the lullaby would play for my own baby. It gave me courage to withstand the pain that overtook my entire body. • But then Jayce didn’t make it, and right after I delivered him, all alone in my room, the lullaby came on. I sobbed. It wasn’t supposed to be that way. It wasn’t time for his lullaby yet. The rest of our time at the hospital, I’d hear the lullaby play multiple times a day. Instead of bringing pain, @mikelemieux and I found tremendous peace and comfort every time we heard the lullaby. It filled me with hope, in a time of intense agony. It reminded me that life still grows, that there is still joy, and love still exists, even in our darkest moments. It was my promise that life is still surrounding me. ❤️ Every day since we left the hospital, I look for the lullaby’s throughout my day. Sometimes it’s the sun coming up, or the butterfly that flutters past my window, other times it’s my husbands laugh or the feeling of my own smile breaking through. ❤️ I know that life might seem impossible for you right now. I know that it might freaking hurt like hell, and you might be really scared. But maybe there are some little lullaby’s that are still surrounding you, that can remind you that life, joy, growth, and love, still overpower the darkness. Listen for the lullaby today.

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Our hearts and our prayers are with Mike and Ashley as they navigate this new grief and peace. Jayce brought healing, and we’re praying for more of that to come.


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