Consequence Jar Ideas: 32 Ideas To Stop The Sibling Bickering

At one point in my desperation to end the sounds of tattling, screaming and attempts at revenge—I tried this genius discipline idea. Let’s just say I’m lucky my kids didn’t kill each other.

One of the biggest pet peeves in parenting is the constant sibling rivalry between my kiddos. They are all strong-willed and independent to the point they could be their own countries at war. And one of the keys I keep impressing into my children is their siblings will be their closest friends later on in life.

My ears used to burn on a daily basis to “Tori Grace hit me!” “Lijah yelled at me.” “MOM—Chy won’t share the remote!!” “She destroyed my Legos!!!” “MOOOOOOM, he’s LOOKING at me!!!” 

And after one incident of tattling, gnashing of teeth, revenge, squeals of injustice, and objects flying at my head, it was time to get real with my kids and teach them comradery. But how? Lucky for me, a friend sent me this idea from another awesome site, thus the We Will Get Along Jar was born. Also known as a consequence jar.

The beauty of this jar takes the pressure off me to dole out consequences on the fly and levels the playing field that all the kids get the same consequences. In the five to 10 minutes it takes to complete a chore, they’ve had ample time to cool off and regain control of their emotions. One of the side effects of this jar is the kids are finally treating each other how they want to be treated. They are being more respectful of voice tone, boundaries, and each others’ things.

The best part is watching my kids use their communication and compromising. For example, if the stick Fold Towels Together was pulled, my son will ask Tori Grace to stack the towels in a pyramid while he folds; or if the stick is pulled for my 14-year-old, she will generally make the chore fun as she completes it with either her 5-year-old sister or 7-year-old brother—sometimes both.

The absolute best part is it builds the children’s character, learning how to work together on top of building relationships while taking ownership of their behaviors. At first, the kids thought the jar was a joke and resisted the consequences of the jar until the bottom line was spelled out. Do this … or spend the rest of the night in bed without supper. 


Heather Riggleman
Heather Riggleman
Heather Riggleman calls Nebraska home (Hey, it’s not for everyone). She roams small towns looking for stories and coffee with her husband and three kids. She writes to bring the perspective of bold truths and raw faith into universal concepts women face from marriage, career, mental health, depression, faith, relationships, to celebration and heartache. Heather is a former national award-winning journalist and the author of Mama Needs a Time Out and Let’s Talk About Prayer. Her work has been featured on Proverbs 31 Ministries, MOPS, Today's Christian Woman and Focus On the Family. You can find her on Facebook, Instagram Instagram, or at heatherriggleman.com.

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