I Can’t Do It All: Learning To Be Enough In An Ambitious World

It was as inevitable as those pesky crow feet that hopped on and off our faces in our 30s until they settled in for good. We Gen-Xers were destined to lose our minds.

We are the generation of Can-do.

We were the ones whose parents didn’t receive their daily helping of praise and adoration and then determined it was verbal affirmation that would push us on to greatness. We were the ones who were asked to draw in primary colors what we wanted to be when we grew up at school. The correct answers were President, astronaut, or doctor. God forbid someone list a blue-collar job or strike out to be a creative type. There weren’t enough colors in the box for choices like those.

No, we were aiming for greatness, the greatness of our grandparents’ generation, except with this new-fangled technology in hand (actually still on the desktop at that time). We could do anything.

And that’s why reality TV shows make so much sense. The dance-offs and sing-offs and weight offs were inevitable. We were groomed to be people who thrive on affirmation, Likes, and proving ourselves to be the best.

That’s why our children’s extravagant birthday parties make sense. The ones where invitations are glossy and personalized, event locales grow more luxe, and the attendees leave with more presents than the birthday kid. We need to do more, be recognized for what we’re worth.

Oh, and we need a side hustle as well. One stable job isn’t enough to meet our growing demands for Fixer Upper-worthy decor. Not to mention, going to the office doesn’t seem like a good fit for us anymore. We want both/and. We want to work and be at the beach at the same time. Why not? We can do anything.

We seem quite insecure on the whole.

We are also a stressed-out generation.

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older. And this stress makes sense considering our appetites for busyness and achievement, and our humanity that puts tangible restraints on us.

But don’t worry. We will Can-do our way right out of it. We invest in self-care, therapy, wellness symposiums, and retreats. We spend a lot on creams and potions, whatever the next item is that will cure our ills, help us sleep, and make us feel more whole.

Maybe this is why minimalism has captured us in the last 10 years. Are we trying to Marie Kondo our closet or are we trying to wrangle some order and sense into our own heads?

Maybe we wouldn’t need so much self-care if we just took better care of ourselves in the first place if we didn’t demand that our bodies and minds occupy two to three full-time jobs all strung together with iPhone apps and caffeine. Maybe we wouldn’t need it if our hearts weren’t constantly bombarded by the media onslaught of horrible news from around the world, which we consume with abandon, chastising ourselves for the work yet to be done.

Angie Gibbons
Angie Gibbonshttp://angiegibbons.com
I help women become their most authentic, brave selves. I am a Mom to 3 in Hawaii. Get my FREE guide to getting rid of overwhelm and anxiety.

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