I’d guess you didn’t marry your spouse with the intent of leaving. At one point, you had dreams for your marriage.
But somewhere, somehow, something went wrong. Horribly wrong. Maybe not all at once, but your relationship changed. Deep down, even now, you wish things could be different.
God longs for the same thing. He has the ability to make what went unbearably wrong in your marriage right.
God is in the business of raising dead things, including your marriage.
Truth: Reconciling a marriage is hard. Divorce and re-marriage are harder. Part of the reason you’re a spouse who wants out is [that] you believe there is someone or something better out there for you. You might be right.
But statistically, I wouldn’t put my money on it.
I know what you’re going through is very emotional. Most facts will fail to resonate or seem to apply to you right now. But let’s get honest about the odds: 45 [percent] of first marriages fail, 65 [percent] of 2nd marriages fail, and a whopping 73 [percent] of 3rd marriages fail.
I know you’re willing to roll the dice on these stats. But as hard as reconciling your current marriage will be, the alternative will very likely be harder.
There. Is. Hope.
From the beginning of time, God has continued to pour out everything he’s got to restoring what’s been broken. When everything seems hopeless, He pulls out all the stops to bring hope. When things are dead, He exhales life.
My wife and I didn’t think our marriage had a chance. I had reconciled to the fact that someone else was going to be a dad to my daughter. And again, my wife wanted to retch at the thought of being intimate with me. It was completely dead by any standards.
Well. Except His.
But God did this — he totally restored our marriage, and made it stronger than ever.
I would have never dreamed this was possible.
Do not underestimate what God might want to do in your relationship. I don’t know what God has in store for your marriage, but let it be said of you that you gave it everything you’ve got to the reconciliation process.
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
Romans 12:18
Don’t leave anything on the table. Zero regrets. The stakes are too high.
Your marriage will not be restored overnight. But you can take a step in the direction of restoration today.
So to the spouse who wants out
Allow me to suggest that your first step is not an action towards your spouse, but rather an expression of faith towards God: HE can restore your marriage into something you never thought possible.
I’m praying for you…and your marriage.
