What It Really Means When You Hate What You See in the Mirror

The song lyrics rang through my earbuds as I ran, repeating the Scriptures that I’m fearfully and wonderfully made.

I nearly threw the earbuds across the sidewalk.

I felt anything but wonderfully made. I felt like a mess, and I felt like crying.

That morning as I dressed for my run, I saw stretch marks across my hips. Wrinkles around my eyes. Gray hair littering the brown.

The mirror showed me the reality of my body, and the reality was hard to take.

I saw a mother past her physical prime, one who keeps drifting steadily away from what the world says is beautiful.

As the song played in my ears, I felt the elastic of my shorts cutting into my thickened waist, and I felt my body protesting the workout I was determined to master. The words I heard didn’t match the emotions I felt, and I scoffed at what the Scriptures said was true.

Nothing about me was wonderful, and everything about me was fading.

I huffed around the track, trying to improve the physical me, and I struggled greatly to believe that even as I am, I am loved. The Creator of all I see formed me in the womb. He saw me in the hidden place.

My struggle is to accept that my decaying physical body is not the sum total of who I am. The world wants me to believe my shell is my worth, and more often than I care to admit, I believe that to be true.

My looks are not my identity. My weight is not my worth. My appearance is not my value.

But so often, it feels just the opposite.

We live in an image-obsessed culture, and even followers of Christ struggle to remember that the bodies we inhabit now are not meant to be flawless or forever. They are temporary shelters for immortal souls.

How do we care for our bodies without believing they’re all we are? How do we watch them decay without believing our worth is deteriorating, too?

I definitely don’t have all the answers. I sure wish I did. But what I’m slowly coming to realize is that any self-hatred I feel is a slap in the face to God. Every time I despise the way I’m made, I’m insulting his creativity. Every time I lament my looks, I’m suggesting his workmanship is faulty.

God doesn’t want me to despise my shell. He wants me to use it as a vehicle for his Spirit.

Jennie Scott
Jennie Scott
Jennie Scott is a divorced and remarried mom of two whose life has been far from perfect and completely different from what she planned. What she has found, though, is that God has provided exactly what she needed through it all. He is teaching her to enjoy the journey even when the path is winding and difficult. Jennie blogs at JennieGScott.com.

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