{“You saved my boys, you prayed for me, you believed in me…I am blessed! I love that the boys love you. They are surrounded by love…who could ask for more? I love you, but more importantly I respect you!”}
It is important to remember, we need to respect one another’s relationship with the kids & support each other..(even if & when you aren’t exactly ‘getting along’) It requires time + patience but it’s worth it. Don’t allow insecurity to sneak its way into your heart, whichever role/title you represent in this ‘puzzle’, because you are enough, you have an important role in their life. Kids just need love, it’s something they’ll carry with them for a lifetime when they receive it with your open hands, not clenched fists.
I’ve discovered over the years and in the trenches that the secret to blending families is that…{there is simply PLENTY OF SPACE FOR US ALL TO GIVE OUR LOVE SIMULTANEOUSLY.}
One person doesn’t have to replace the other. It’s not a competition. Kids are not territory to be claimed / conquered, they are precious lives to be cherished, unfortunately a lot of people don’t see this through their own selfishness/insecurity. If we can just discover how to be secure within ourselves and our role than there’s no room for jealousy. And ALWAYS remember Grace because we ALL need it.
Blood does not have to ‘bind’ us because Love does.
{“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”}
