Social media has led to the EASE of “mom shaming” — the snarky talk that was before relegated to parks, soccer games, moms groups and playdates is now easy to find online, in front of your face, every day. All this negativity may have some of us doubting whether or not we’re a “good mom.”
Life is all about choices, and apparently a lot of us parents feel that OUR choices are the only good ones. And then, a lot of us feel like we make the WRONG ones no matter how hard we try. We don’t need anyone to shame us. We shame ourselves plenty.
I think mom Ashle Potter had this in mind as she set out to post to Facebook earlier this week. Her mom-affirming words brought TEARS to my eyes and were just what I needed to hear. Whether others are questioning your parenting choices or whether you’re giving YOURSELF a hard time, I think you might just need to hear them too. She says:
“To the mom who’s breastfeeding: Way to go! It really is an amazing gift to give your baby, for any amount of time that you can manage! You’re a good mom.
To the mom who’s formula feeding: Isn’t science amazing? To think there was a time when a baby with a mother who couldn’t produce enough would suffer, but now? Better living through chemistry! You’re a good mom.
To the cloth diapering mom: Fluffy bums are the cutest, and so friendly on the bank account. You’re a good mom.
To the disposable diapering mom: Wow those things hold a lot, and it’s excellent to not worry about leakage and laundry! You’re a good mom.
To the mom who works: It’s wonderful that you’re sticking to your career, you’re a positive role model for your children in so many ways, it’s fantastic. You’re a good mom.
To the mom who had to feed her kids from the drive thru all week because you’re too worn out to cook or go grocery shopping: You’re feeding your kids, and hey, I bet they aren’t complaining! Sometimes sanity can indeed be found in a white bag with a big red chick on it. You’re a good mom.
To the mom who gave her kids a homecooked breakfast lunch and dinner for the past week: Excellent! Good nutrition is important, and they’re learning to enjoy healthy foods at an early age, a boon for the rest of their lives. You’re a good mom.
To the mom with the kids who are sitting quietly and using their manners in the fancy restaurant: Kudos, it takes a lot to maintain order with children in a place where they can’t run around. You’re a good mom.
To the mom with the toddler having a meltdown in the cereal aisle: they always seem to pick the most embarrassing places to lose their minds don’t they? We’ve all been through it. You’re a good mom.
To the moms who judge other moms for ANY of the above?
Glass houses, friend. Glass houses.”
Thank you, Ashle, for your life-giving words!
And mamas? Way to GO! You love your kids, and you’re such a good mom. <3