What Are the Signs That Your Teen Is Sexually Active?

As parents, we know we can’t be in all places at all times monitoring our kids’ behavior. Nor would we want to. We want to trust our children to make great choices. But, what do you do when you suspect they’re not making the best choices? What are signs that your teenage daughter is sexually active?

What should we look for?

Living in the world today nearly everything we encounter is sexualized in one way or another. Because of that, it can be really hard to decipher between what is normal teenage behavior and what should concern us. We don’t want to be overbearing as parents but we also cannot afford to be careless. As adults, we realize that there is so much more at stake than just pregnancy and STD’s. We all would love to be able to know if our teen is having sex or considering it.

Five common signs:

1. Change in attitude or behavior

If your teen is having sex it is likely that he or she will become irritable and easy to upset. You’ll notice an attitude shift. Your daughter may become more emotional and “bratty,” as some would call it. Your sons may become very passive and easy to anger as well. These are all signs of guilt and shame manifesting. If they were brought up in a Christian home, they know the standard God has set in his word and their spirit will not be in alignment with their actions. This creates an inner turmoil that, because of their adolescence, they are not able to properly process.

2. Always curious about your whereabouts

As a teenager, I was always curious about where my parents were a lot of the time. Sometimes I wanted to know if I was going to have to make my own dinner and sometimes I was up to no good. If your teenager seems to be increasingly aware of your schedule and what you’re up to, it may be because they too are up to something. Pay attention to how often your teen asks you where you are going. For example, they may ask how long you will be gone, or to prolong your trip to get them something they need. If your teen is having sex, they need to know when and where they can, and it obviously won’t be when you are around.

3. Suddenly into their appearance

This one can be a little trickier, therefore, you have to pay close attention. You would think this is only for girls, but it applies to boys as well. With girls, you may notice subtle things like a little extra makeup for no good reason. They may start buying less modest clothes. We all know teenage girls can take lightyears to get ready even just for a trip to target. And boys are difficult unless you have one who never showers and all of a sudden takes up a new hygiene regime that includes cologne. However, you can still be aware of how much attention they give to their appearance in relation to who they are going to be around and where they are going.


Bethany Dumbleton
Bethany Dumbleton
Bethany Dumbleton is the Chief Operations Officer for Counter Culture mom. She is first and foremost a devoted follower of Jesus Christ. Her husband and two children are her main ministry which overflows into her life ministry. She knows that our children follow our example. She strives to help parents grow in Christ, so they may shepherd their children biblically.

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