The Case For Putting My Husband Before My Kids

The more selective you are with seeds, the more delighted you will be with the crop. Max Lucado

Where have you staked out your farmland to plant those seeds? Where are your thoughts camping out today? Why don’t you try living in the land of encouraging truth about your husband? Here’s a few of mine.

Paul loves me.

He loves our children.

He supports my ideas and goals.

He works very hard to keep a roof over our heads.

If you’re an overachiever, why don’t you make these thoughts specific? Here’s my example:

He puts out my vitamins on the bathroom sink every morning and every night.

He pays our bills and doesn’t complain about it.

He tells me I’m beautiful.

He holds my hand in the car.

Philippians 4:8-9 is truth serum to a hurting relationship. Like I said, no marriage is perfect. I could just as easily have made a list about my husband’s shortcomings and he could do the same about me.

But, I choose not to.

I could just as easily let him fend for himself and focus 100% of my attentions on our children—their needs are real and when they’re small, they cannot meet them on their own.

But, I choose not to.

Because the truth is, the BEST thing I can do for my children is to put their dad FIRST, and make our marriage a priority.

This means focusing on the positives he brings to our lives and letting go of the small, annoying, every day stuff. It means considering his needs less than I do my own.

If you need a daily reminder of Philippians 4:8-9, write it down on a yellow sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror. I’ve done that before.

Whatever fills our minds will come out in our actions and decisions.  – Michael Yousoff

Would you like to make a difference for the kingdom of God today? Love your husband. Take your thoughts captive and abide in Philippians 4:8-9– a stone fortress of truth. Whatever is positively true about your man—make that your mind’s dwelling place and live there.


Wanna learn more about how being a “mean mom” can make you the BEST mom you can be? Check out Joanne’s book The Mean Mom’s Guide to Raising Great Kids.

Joanne Kraft
Joanne Kraft
Joanne Kraft is a mom of four and the author of The Mean Mom’s Guide to Raising Great Kids and Just Too Busy—Taking Your Family on a Radical Sabbatical. She’s been a guest on Focus on the Family, Family Life Today and CBN. Joanne and her husband, Paul, recently moved their family from California to Tennessee and happily traded soy milk and arugula for sweet tea and biscuits. Joanne joins her mom-friends over coffee every Saturday morning, sign up and grab your favorite cup—she’d love to have you!

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