Four Years Later: I Wrote a Letter of Encouragement to Myself, a New Mom

Third, you really are capable of more than you think you are! I realize this sounds very cliche and trite, but it’s still true. You can raise these little people! You won’t do it perfectly, no one does! But you will do it. You will give them food, keep them clean, play them, read to them and help them grow and explore their world. You will have hard, rough days. But you won’t break your kids! You and they, in the end, will be okay.

But even though you are capable, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Don’t feel like you’re more of a mom or a better mom if you do it alone. Seek guidance from older women, yes, even and maybe especially your own mother. You never know, your parenting struggles may shed some light on why your mother parented the way she did. Parenting is probably the hardest job you’ll ever do. So why do the hardest work alone? Learn and grow with other mothers. Laugh, vent and cry with them.

Lastly, Just take this new journey one moment at a time. Remember to breathe. If you need to step away for five minutes, to gather your sanity, that’s okay and it doesn’t make you weak. Learn to pray and lean on God. Motherhood will show you how much you truly need Him to change you! Trust Him like you never have before. It will be incredible to look back later on all you have learned and grown and exciting to see what new things are in store for you. Hang in there, new mom!


Your slightly less frantic, but still coffee-loving self.

Ashley Wayne
Ashley Wayne
Ashley is a wife, mother and writer who happens to be totally blind. She and her sighted husband are raising two children, both adopted from eastern Europe and who are also both blind, and are expecting their third, due in late April. Ashley has had articles published on various parenting and disability related sites. She writes primarily over on Facebook, covering topics such as adoption, blindness, parenting, grief and loss and homeschooling.

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