I want you to know, it’s perfectly normal to feel jealous, frustrated and even angry at times when you have a sibling. Remember, though, that once you speak words aloud, you can never take them back. Try not to say things you’ll later regret, because just like a broken plate will always show the glue you used to repair it, broken hearts never heal without scars.
Sometimes, You’ll Need Alone Time
For now, while she’s little, your sister will share a bedroom with Daddy and me. But eventually, you may have to share a bedroom for a while until we can move to a bigger house. I know this invades your privacy and makes you feel understandably resentful.
I promise to honor your need to be alone sometimes. When your sister starts to drive you crazy, you have full permission to walk away. Feelings take time to process, so whether you need to take a walk around the block or hide out in my bedroom to read quietly, I’ll respect that.
But You’ll Also Have a Permanent Friend And Ally
Friends come and go, but family is forever. Your sister will stand by you through thick and thin. When you feel all alone in the world, she’ll give you a hug and listen like a best friend.
Even if life leads you far apart in the distance when you grow up, you and your sister will always remain close in each others’ hearts. Think of me and Aunt Tia. Even though she lives two states away, we still talk every single week and get together whenever we can.
Having a baby sister means having someone who’s always got your back. Knowing that makes whatever hard times you may encounter in the future much easier to bear.
Most Importantly, I’ll Still Love You the Same
When your sister first arrives, it may seem like she gets all the attention. Babies do need a lot more help than big girls like you, and it may appear like I’m always focusing on your sister and ignoring you. Feeling a bit jealous is normal. But I promise to do my best to spend as much time with you as possible, even though sometimes it may be hard to give as much as you deserve.
You might no longer be the baby of the family, but no matter what, you’ll always be my first, my number one baby. No one else can ever fill your special place in my heart.
I Pray Your Sister Is Even Half as Wonderful as You
I’ll never stop loving you, nor will I ever stop rooting for you in everything you do. I don’t tell you often enough how proud I am of you, and how honored I am to have such a smart, strong, sassy and caring daughter. I can tell you this, though — if your new little sister turns out anything like you, I’ll be the lucky mom of the two most perfect girls in the world.
