What No One Told Me About Being a Mom

No one told me that the pain of having children leave home would become triumphant joy and overwhelming pride at watching them step into their own. Who are these amazing people? How did they become so courageous, strong and wise? Each new day I get to be astounded at the bravery and discernment these men and women display.

No one told me that I would so deeply love who my children love. I didn’t know how my heart would expand so much with each new person my children chose as their own. Their loves become my loves.

No one told me that the world would really only exist where my children choose to live their lives.

No one told me that eternity would take on a whole new depth and meaning as my children grew and began to decide whether faith would be a part of their lives as adults. In the end, only eternity matters and I desire for my children to be where I will be, in the presence of God, so I petition and plead and believe that God will continue to draw them to His side until death takes their final breath.

No one told me how much my faith in the goodness and faithfulness of God would expand and deepen due to having children. I need Him more because I have children. I trust Him more because I have children. I seek Him more because I have children.

No one told me how important and precious my relationship with my husband would be after having children. I needed his influence, his strength, his wisdom, his help. I didn’t know that I could love him any more than I did the day we got married, then we had children, and as I saw him love our kids, I fell in love with him all over again.

Having children is life-altering. I am not the same woman I was before I had children. Having children changed the lens through which I see the world. It is more vibrantly colored and filled with new harmonious songs. I feel more deeply, see more clearly, and seek those things that will truly bring about good to the lives of my children. I understand that evil is that which will steal my children’s souls, and good is that which will bring them closer to God.

No one told me that being a mom would give my life so much meaning, joy, hope and purpose. I didn’t know I could laugh so hard, shed so many tears, be so tired, or love so deeply until I had kids. Being a mom is who I have been and who I will always be. I might not ‘mother’ my children anymore, but I will forever be their mom. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Sheri Bybee Mitchell
Sheri Bybee Mitchell
Married for 30 years. Mother to 4. Mother-in-law to 3. Grandma to 2 (so far). Loves Jesus, reading, football and laundry. Greatly dislikes cooking, conflict, dirty microwaves and summer. I write to encourage others in this journey of life by honestly sharing my own struggles and joys because no one is perfect, especially me!

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