My husband and I were just freshmen in college when we met. We had several classes together, which is how we got to know one another. We started out as friends and then we started to crush on one another as time went by. We both knew we liked one another, but of course, we played it off until we couldn’t anymore.
We started dating for a couple of years and got engaged shortly after we graduated from college. We got married 10 months after being engaged and then 10 months after being married, we got pregnant with our first baby girl. We have adjusted, and have really grown as a family over these last few months of welcoming our baby girl into the world. We were once this young couple in college helping one another with homework, to now being a married couple with our own house, own cars, college degrees, two dogs, and our first child!
As an interracial couple, we have learned to ignore some people while out in public. As an interracial couple, we sometimes get glares from both the white and black communities. Glares that are meant to be judgmental since we are ‘married outside of our race.’ The glares and hateful stares have never bothered my husband and I, but we definitely notice it. We have been together for so long and have come so far in our relationship that we just laugh, and talk about how ridiculous people are in 2020 to still judge an interracial couple.
We have encountered people who have made comments about dating outside of our race. We have been called c**ns. We have been to the fair, different states, Lowe’s, and many other places where people will stare and give dirty looks. When we were younger in our relationship, we would get upset because we did not understand why people would judge an interracial couple who have nothing but love for one another. When we were younger, we tried to understand why people are the way they are when it comes to interracial relationships.
We are now more mature in our relationship and we understand why people are the way they are. We understand people are judgmental, no matter how much we love one another. We understand people do not want a black person dating or marrying a white person, or a white person dating or marrying a black person. But we have come to understand it does not matter what other people think. We love each other so much it only makes our love grow stronger for one another. From this interracial relationship, we have both learned so much about one another’s background and we have grown together as a couple.
To our little mixed girl, we will teach her to love everything about her curls, fair skin, and green eyes. We will educate her on both her black and white cultural background. We will teach her to love every ounce of herself, no matter what society says about interracial people. We are determined to teach our daughter to love everyone, no matter the color of their skin, appearance, etc. We are determined to teach her to love with an open heart. We will teach her to know the color of someone’s skin does not define who they are.
We will love one another and continue to grow with one another. We will rise above all negative glares and racial comments. We will ignore the negativity, and continue to shine as a family. We will stand for interracial couples. We will be the change in the world.”
**This story was written by A’sharel Chastain of Missouri. Follow her inspiring journey on Instagram.