My husband and I dated for 4 ½ years before we walked down the aisle. So basically, we thought we had each other pretty well figured out. And this marriage thing? We’d obviously have it down pat. Then, one rainy afternoon in May we said ‘I Do,’ and we realized how little we actually knew about each other. No, there were no deep dark secrets or crazy skeletons hiding in our closets, sorry to disappoint. But the little thing that we discovered on a whole new level once we were married…
Shock. Gasp.
We were raised differently. He grew up with all boys and non-stop ESPN (i.e. my Mother-in-law is a saint) and I grew up with all girls, lots of shopping and a constant stream of Rodgers and Hammerstein musicals. (i.e. my Father is a saint)
The first few months into our marriage, we did our best to love each other and to play house, but we didn’t know what the heck we were doing. Some of our ‘serious disagreements’ are hysterical to look back on now. I mean, did you know that there is a right and a wrong way to fold towels? Chris didn’t either. Poor man, because one random Thursday his wife deemed it a necessary hill to die on.
Over the years we’ve learned a lot. We put some of our ridiculousness to bed. We learned how to humble ourselves and We started educating ourselves about the opposite sex. The results? Staggering, you ready for this?…We got better. We became better spouses, better at understanding each others wiring and better at extending grace. Perfect? Not on your life. Not until pigs fly and they invent a cellulite cream that actually works. But determined to keep improving at how we love each other? You better believe it.
We’ve read a lot, listened to a lot, and even created our own relationship resource in the process called, “The Pursuit of Love.” You can check that out here.
Today friend, I’m bringing you a little collaboration. That’s right, I brought in the big guns because I knew you’d benefit from a man’s perspective.
5 things your husband wants you to know
1. Your Husband Wants to be Your Hero
When you and your husband were first dating you had a huge level of respect for him. You couldn’t help but look at him with that twinkle in your eye because you believed in him so much! You knew he could do anything he put his mind to. Truth be told, you believed in him more than he believed in himself. Your confidence in him empowered him to be things he never thought that he could be and do things he never thought he could do.
Then you married him.
And over time you may have lost some of that belief because you’ve seen his flaws. It’s much easier to nag him into doing things now instead of believing that he’s still your superman. BUT, if you start believing in him again and looking at him like a superhero, watch out-he might actually become one.
