Husbands: Let’s Stop the Foolishness and Cut the Apron Strings!

You must make clear that your wife is now the number-one woman in your life, and the best way to respect your mother is to honor her through your wife. Although initially it might feel awkward to adjust the relational culture, when your mother calls you for help, respectfully communicate that you will clear it with your wife first to avoid possible conflicts.

Any gifts or caregiving should come from your wife so your mother can embrace your wife as the one she should relate to when she needs assistance. When the relationship is healthy, your wife will be the one who reminds you what your mother needs you to take care of, and it is an indicator of a healthy mother-daughter relationship.

Husbands: Is Your Momma the Problem?

How do you know if your momma is the problem? She will insert herself in your marriage and wreak havoc. A wise mother-in-law will ask her daughter-in-law if her son can help her with something. As the man of the house, you will find yourself having to choose between your wife and your mother.

You may develop a secret life with your mother, one in which your wife is not included or does not feel welcome. Your mother might complain about your wife and disagree with how she treats you. She will feel free to speak negatively about your wife and freely express disdain for your spouse, to the point that your wife has picked up on the fact your mother doesn’t like her and wishes you had married someone else.

As a grown man and husband, if your mother speaks anything negative about your wife, defend her—do not hold back. Respectfully state that your loyalty lies with your wife, not with her, and if she continues to speak negatively about your wife, communication will be limited.


Paul Arthurs
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With over 25 years of full-time ministry service, and currently acting as lead pastor for Wheaton Christian Center in Chicago, Paul Arthurs brings his natural humor to inspiring others to live purposefully in a way that pleases God. Together with his wife, Fiona, Paul strives to help marriages thrive and have co-written books, spoken to audiences around the world, and taught married couples how to grow in the Lord. They’ve been married for 23 years and are the founders of The Carlton Center, which empowers youth and families. They live in the northwestern suburbs of Chicago with their three children.

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