Notice the word “yet” at the end of every sentence I just listed above.
He’s still just your boyfriend. As your boyfriend, he has the potential to be your husband, but it’s not until he has reached that potential and has the capability to provide for you, make you his #1 privilege, create a home with you, and love you till “death do you part,” does he earn the husband privileges of your forever affection, companionship, and love beyond just hugs and kisses.
Think of it this way, you’re saving something JUST for him. Only he will receive every single one of the privileges and gifts you’ve been holding onto. That’s how special he should feel. Give him something to look forward to. Something to work towards and for. Because he’s just your boyfriend right now. And he does not and should not be receiving husband privileges, period.
What does God say about husband privileges?
God created marriage and supports families.
“Marry and have sons and daughters; find wives for your sons and give your daughters in marriage, so that they too may have sons and daughters.” (Jeremiah 29:6)
God promotes the exclusivity of marriage.
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)
God planned certain privileges — just for those who are married.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” (Hebrews 13:4)
God’s not wanting to steal joy from anyone. His best design — His best plan — for marriage to be protected. Girlfriends and boyfriends do not get wife and husband privileges. You’ll be glad you waited.
This piece originally appeared at The Odyssey, published with permission.