Yes, My Husband Has Faults. No, I Will Not Tell You About Them.

Especially for those of us with blogs, we need to remember that we are in some ways public figures.  Many of us have our real, full names associated with our own blogs or with blogs we contribute to, and mention our husbands by name.  That means that when we demean them in print, it isn’t just in an anonymous kind of way, and it’s not just to a tiny audience.  We never know when we may go viral, and many of us are constantly working toward that as a goal.  What happens if our husbands’ bosses (or maybe worse –potential bosses) read things we’ve said that could call into question their qualifications or employability? What about their friends, or the wives of their friends? What if something I said hurt him socially? I’d hate to think that a small quirk that I couldn’t accept led me to gossip about my husband in a place where someone read it and decided that they no longer cared to be friends with him.

Mostly, I’d hate for someone to read something about him and decide that he’s a bad husband (he isn’t), that he doesn’t treat me the way I deserve to be treated (he’s better than anyone could deserve), and that I must be in an unhappy marriage (I most certainly am not!). Because when I read blog posts in which the bloggers bash their husbands, even if they attempt to bring it back around to choosing to love a flawed spouse or some such feel-good resolution, I feel sorry for them or I feel sorry for the husband. And that’s not a takeaway I ever want anyone to find in a conversation with me, whether it be in person or through my blog.

So, fellow bloggers, fellow wives… let’s think twice about the things that come out of our mouths or flow from our keyboards.  As the Ephesians were admonished, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Ephesians 4:29).

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This post originally appeared at Her View From Home, published with permission.