I Didn’t Mean to Make My Daughter Cry—But I’m So Glad I Did

Joshua Rogers is a married dad of two daughters and a writer who blogs at JoshuaRogers.com about “Finding God in the Ordinary.” He started his blog in 2010 after his first child was born, because, he says, “I found myself wanting to tell strangers about the lessons I was learning every day from being a dad.”

Recently, Rogers wrote about one of those lessons that was about both marriage and parenting, and his story resonated with married parents in a very big—and viral—way. The blog post is entitled “What happened when my daughter saw me kiss my wife“.

Rogers recounts his first child’s birth, and how he spoke to his newborn daughter as he held her in his arms, saying, “First, I promise I will never leave your mother; and second, I’ll show up. I’ll do everything I can to be at your recitals and ball games and dinner around the table.”

But, he says, when reality with a newborn at home hit, he realized his daughter would need much more from her parents than them to just love each other and stay married. “She needed to see a regular demonstration of our love,” he says. “That was not our strong suit.”

Fast-forward a few years and add another kid to the mix, and the Rogers were still working on getting that “demonstrative love” thing right. He says that they prayed for God to show them how they needed to change individuall in their marriage, and that “God responded, showing us unflattering things about our character that we didn’t want to see. It was humbling and made us less likely to assume we were always right when there was a conflict. It also had an unexpected benefit: We became more affectionate to each other.”

Then one day, God made the fact that their marriage was a “new creation” very clear, and it had a profound impact on their kids. Rogers says they were listening to a kids music playlist with their daughters  when the song “At Last I See the Light” from”Tangled” came on and he impulsively asked his wife to dance.

Jenny Rapson
Jenny Rapson
Jenny is a follower of Christ, a wife and mom of three from Ohio and a freelance writer and editor.

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