Be a Bridge-Builder.
Building bridges is the parent’s work when a child is on a detour. The relationship with your child may be strained but continue to reach out and let him know you love him and are there for him (even if he doesn’t respond). This is critical.
One dad continued to text his estranged daughter, “Good night” and “I love you” almost daily for years. She rarely responded. Now, seven year later, his daughter has returned home. She knew she could come back.
Be a Grace-Giver.
Demonstrating grace and humility lets your child know you are approachable and love them unconditionally. Acceptance (or non-acceptance) of behavior isn’t the same as loving a person. We often disagree with folks we love.
Be a Truth-Teller.
This one can be tough. Speaking truth about what God’s best looks like takes an element of courage and a sensitivity to God’s perfect timing. Pray for the words and ask God when to speak them and how to speak them. It has helped me to do my homework so I can direct my child to God’s word when appropriate. (Ultimately my opinion doesn’t really matter) I want to be certain the truth I am speaking is God’s, not mine. I cannot control what my child does with this, that is between the individual and the Lord. (I am not the Junior Holy Spirit.)
Be a God-Truster.
God is not surprised when our kids take a detour. Even in His perfect garden, Adam and Eve had free will and there was a snake slinking around.
Be a Prayer Warrior.
Always, continually pray that the Lord draws the child back to Himself. No matter the wandering particulars, the relationship with Jesus is the main prayer.
Be a Hope-Holder.
Cling to hope. God can do all things.
Never, ever, give up.
Love never fails.
Messy Journey is for parents walking the difficult road with a wayward child. Be inspired to drink the deep waters of peace as you draw closer to the Father of all prodigals. Author and licensed parent and family educator Lori Wildenberg offers practical grace- and truth-filled ways of navigating your relationship with a detoured child whether they are rejecting faith, dabbling in sin, or wholeheartedly embracing sinful behavior. Her words and counsel are authentic because she has been there with her own daughter. There is hope. After all, their struggle isn’t really with you, it’s with God.