My husband still keeps those cards, even the ones from the rough years (yes, years). They mean something to him. They mean something to me, too.
We survived that rough Valentine’s Day and some painful anniversaries, too. Although I’d love to tell you we never visited the dark times again in these last 15 years, it would be a lie. We have.
I’ve since learned that every marriage has its ups and downs. That’s just normal.
So, this Valentine’s Day, my heart goes out to you, the wife who doesn’t feel like celebrating love, the wife who feels so unloved and maybe even trapped. I know that Valentine’s Day shines a great big spotlight on your source of pain. I know you are tired of struggling in marriage and you long for just a small slice of peace in your life.
I know you often feel alone in this. And I know the loving feelings just aren’t there at the moment, as much as you wish them to be.
Take heart, lonely, wounded wife.
You are not alone! The Father has not forgotten you!
“The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them;
he delivers them from all their troubles.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
This is just part of my story of surviving Valentine’s Day when you feel unloved… and unloving. I hope you’ll join us for Part 2 in which I share six practical tips for stirring up love when marriage just plain stinks.
Until then,
Jen
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This article originally appeared at Being Confident of This, published with permission.
