Simple Ways to Serve Your Husband (Without Waiting on Him Hand and Foot)

Our dates and time spent together are generally things I want to do, because let’s be real I am usually the one working out all the details of plans and sitters so we can escape the farmhouse for a while. I have begun to reflect on what our time together looks like. In my mind we should be out doing stuff, the trick is my man likes to stay home and work on things.

So, sometimes our time together needs to be working side by side on a project of his (like right now we are finishing our basement, I need to set aside time to help him– -ugh- — cue dying to yourself). He loves it when we do work together. When he’s fixing something I am also helping fix that thing whatever it may be. This is a weird form of his love language but it’s his thing.

Ladies, participate in life with your man. This is part of serving him. This means date nights can’t always be caviar and sunset walks on the beach (if they ever were?). Sometimes it looks like going to the driving range or staying home and cooking his favorite meal.

None of these things are done in perfection, and I drop the ball all the time. However, I want to challenge us to devote ourselves to intentionally serving our husbands, selflessly. (Looking for ideas on how to build in small and thoughtful habits and serving into your marriage? Check out Intentional Love, a marriage book bundle from Leah and her husband Matt!)

Serving them in the ways that show them we love them, we value them and we see them. This looks different for each of us, add this to your prayer time with God. Ask him to reveal how you can have a servant’s heart in your marriage. Just as the verse in Matthew says, to be great we must first become servants. This will change our marriages, our witness and will draw us nearer to our heavenly Father.

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Chrystan Ferrell
Most days Chrystan can be found at the end of a gravel road on Ferrell Farms, sitting on her farmhouse front porch drinking coffee and dreaming.  As a wife, boy mom of three, step-mom of one, fierce lover of Jesus and pursuer of ministry Chrystan invites you to join in on all the crazy that Ferrell Farms has to offer over on her website where she loves to create a safe place for women to land.

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