Well, here I am writing another article about cyber bullying / social media bullying, because yet another beautiful, smart, 12-year-old girl has hanged herself after enduring it. Her name is Gabbie Green. The difference between her case and all the others I’ve written about, including 12-year-old Mallory Grossman’s, is that Panama City, Florida police investigated the cyber bullying allegations that Gabbie’s parents made against her peers and found evidence enough to charge two of her 12-year-old classmates with cyberstalking.
Look at this young girl. She is gone, and her mother is grieving. Can you imagine?
Gabbie Green and her mom, screenshot CNN
CNN reports that Panama City police interviewed a boy and a girl in connection with Gabbie’s suicide. The police report says that the girl admitted to authorities that she intentionally caused problems between Gabbie and another child and both verbally in person and via social media cyber bullying, and that “Her actions consisted of starting rumors of the victim having sexually transmitted diseases, vulgar name-calling … and threats to ‘expose’ personal and sensitive details of the victim’s life.” (This, from a TWELVE YEAR OLD to another TWELVE YEAR OLD!) The report also stated that she deleted the relevant messages from her electronic devices after learning of Gabbie’s death.
As for the boy police interviewed and charged, his actions are even more chilling. The police reports states that the boy “said Gabbie texted him to say she was having a bad day and had attempted to hang herself and had marks on her neck.” Then, the two had a video chat, where Gabbie talked about taking her life, and the boy said something to the effect of, “If you’re going to do it, just do it” and ended the call.
So, she did. She did it. She ended her life.
Parents, I have said it before, and I will say it again. I will keep writing these articles until I don’t have to any more. Until all of us STOP giving our kids access to social media BEFORE they can handle it, until all of us START teaching our kids that their words can LITERALLY be the difference between LIFE AND DEATH. So many of us are raising kids who cannot see outside of their own selves. They do not value anyone else’s life or experience as important, and so they treat them like dirt. They have no empathy, so they cause pain.
And we make it 1,000 times easier for them to do it with little electronic devices like smartphones and tablets. With Instagram and SnapChat and Whisper and Kik – with so many of these apps they can even torture people ANONYMOUSLY! So easy. So DEADLY.
I am begging you parents, stop cyber bullying before it starts. To NOT give your tweens and young teens smart phones or tables and social media accounts. They don’t have those, they can’t be a cyber bully. Teach them to treat others as they want to be treated! Teach them empathy. They have these qualities, they WON’T be a bully of any kind.
Please, don’t let Gabbie Green’s death be in vain. Vow with me to DO BETTER. Our kids cannot handle the huge responsibility of social media when they are young. Let us not be the one that puts a deadly weapon in their hands. It is my hope that the fact that these two kids are actually being CHARGED in Gabbie’s case will make more parents think twice before they give their kids one.