Hey Tired Mom of Teens, This Is for You

So moms in these gap years of motherhood – I see you. I hear your heart. I feel the bittersweet letting go.

Just because we have teens doesn’t mean we don’t need friends or that we have all the answers.

We’re just in this new phase.

And it may not be as cute, nor as Facebook-worthy. We might not be sharing first day of pictures with handmade signs or strategies for the best Elf on the Shelf hiding spot. But there are things that are the same – the no sleep, the worry, the joy, the letting go, the giving of our heart. What matters isn’t perfection, isn’t a car without scratches, it is that you keep on driving. You keep moving.

Even when you don’t exactly know how this teenage story will end up. We just have to talk about it – just as much as we did when they were little.

It’s the feeling of alone that makes it challenging. But if we keep being the village, keep showing up, keep loving each other in this phase just as much as when they were little and we’d deliver meals – well, then, we can get through. And honestly, I think we should start up the meals for moms with teens….just saying…

Breathe, mom of teens, you’ll get through. And you, my sweet friend are not alone in the slammed doors, late night waiting up, text reading, bleacher sitting, college app applying, tears as they grow up journey. They still love you. Trust me. You might go through a giant drought of that love but there will be a day when they look back and think wow, my mom showed up for me.

I remember the day my oldest left and the day she was born and the memories in-between.

There isn’t a season of life, of motherhood, where I stopped loving, stopped giving, stopped trying.

And that sounds like you.

So mom in the teen years – keep on carrying you.

You’re changing lives. One pick up, one text, one talking about the hard stuff, after another.


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Rachel Marie Martin
Rachel Marie Martinhttp://findingjoy.net
Rachel Marie Martin believes in the power of the human spirit to overcome, to thrive and to find deep joy and because of that she pours out her heart via these platforms: she is the writer behind the site FindingJoy.net, partner of BloggingConcentrated.com, co-host of the Amplify Podcast, and a featured writer for The Huffington Post. Her top blog post, “Why Being a Mom is Enough” has surpassed 1.9 million Facebook likes and she has had her articles translated into over 25 languages. Her site reaches millions and has a robust, engaged Facebook community. Her articles have been featured by The Huffington Post, iVillage, IJR,  Star Tribune, iVillage, Stuff New Zealand, PopSugar, Parents, What to Expect, Mamalode, SheKnows, NBC Parents, Scary Mommy, Mother.ly, Dr. Greene, and many more. Her first book, "The Brave Art of Motherhood", published by Penguin Random House is available now.  She speaks worldwide about a variety of empowering topics ranging from motherhood to social media marketing to website strategy to writing to creating an authentic community. She believes in living each day intentionally and loves working with others to cultivate a vision, realize their potential and see their dreams become a reality.

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