Parents, Don’t Gloss Over the Ugly Parts of Easter

Would you ever let your kids have a picture book that showed beatings? Torture? Dead bodies? Of course not! Then why would we ever talk to our kids about, show our kids and celebrate a season like Easter that is about the same thing?

This is hard.

Why not skip the hard parts and just focus on Easter morning?

This is a valid thought. I’ve even read kids’ ministry curriculum that doesn’t talk about Jesus’ death because they don’t want to introduce the topic too early. And I get that. But I have a different take …

We have a bouquet of daffodils on our kitchen table as I type. They make my tired, winter-y little heart so happy!

To get to this garden full of daffodils, we have to go through winter. To get to the joy of Resurrection Day, we have to go through the beating, crucifixion and death of Jesus.

My kids won’t understand the whole story, and the parts they do get may be a little hard for them. But guess what? It was hard. And it is hard to understand, even for adults.

But I know my kids’ hearts are open enough. They are tender enough. They are soft fertile ground where God’s Word can grow. I want to plant this story in their hearts right away!

Here are a few tips for talking to your kids about the hard parts of the story behind Easter:

1. Stay on their level

You don’t have to show them the Passion of the Christ. (In fact, please don’t do that!) You can show them cartoon pictures from kids’ Bibles. You don’t have to tell them about the whips that had bone and glass on the ends. But you can tell them Jesus got hit in the head with a stick. You can let them see the seriousness without seeing the gore.

2. Recognize their understanding

Kids only understand what they understand. I always say when my son hears Jesus was nailed to the cross, he thinks about the Handy Manny cartoon. He cannot fathom the actual pain. And that’s fine with me! I only want him to understand it on a child-like, naive level.

Amanda White
Amanda White
Amanda White is the Jesus-loving wife and mom of two kids who blogs at to help you impress God’s Word on your kids’ hearts. She also wrote the best-selling ebook, Truth in the Tinsel: An Advent Experience for Little Hands. It's an awesome advent tool, and way less creepy than the Elf on the Shelf. And what's even better than the Easter Bunny? Amanda's newest ebook: A Sense of the Resurrection: an Easter Experience for Families.

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