4 Questions Every Working Mom Needs To Consider

You’re a working mom. You wake up early, hoping for a couple quiet minutes alone. Before you know it, your morning race begins and you’re coaxing sleepy kids out of bed. How old are kids before they can get dressed, eat, and brush their teeth at a reasonable pace? Out the door you all go, hoping you have everything. Day in and day out, you follow the same rhythm. Always rushing to get the kids ready, drive all over town, and then be your best at work.

The whole time, you’re fighting yourself. Should you be working? Is it selfish to be a working mom if you don’t need the money? What does your mother/mother-in-law/pastor think about working moms?

Proverbs 31, June Cleaver, and Joanna Gaines

At some point, the idea that a good Christian mama’s calling is to raise her children became popular. If she works outside the home, somehow she’s stepped out of God’s will. Even though it’s not as popular today, as mamas, we struggle to find the right balance in our lives.

As a little girl, I remember watching Leave it to Beaver reruns, the quintessential tv family—strong male head of household, pleasing wife, and 2 sons. June Clever was so calm, quiet, and accommodating, the perfect tv mom.

The storyline still exists in the church today. What is the proper role of women? Should mothers work? Should they stay home with their kids?

If you ask 100 people, you’re likely to get 100 different answers. Someone will tell you “no” because motherhood is your calling. Another might add “maybe” if it’s financially necessary. Yet someone else will say “yes” because we need to minister in our communities. You end up more confused than when you began.

If we look to Proverbs 31 for guidance, the mystery woman we find is a mogul. She gets up early, cares for her family, cares for her staff, manages her household, runs a couple businesses, and apparently, is fairly pleasant. (I like to believe she got tired and a little snippy at times also.) This seems impossible.

And then came Joanna Gaines. She unwittingly created a larger conversation about women’s roles in the workplace. With thousands of social media followers and hoards of visitors to Waco, she emerged as the model female Christian business mogul.

Joanna Gaines makes being a Christian working mom acceptable.

Bigger questions to ask yourself

Asking if you should work is the wrong question. Working represents small portion of your larger life. We need to go deeper.

For many of us, work is about more than the job. Our identity and worth become mixed in with the tasks filling our days. We find value in projects, deadlines, and results. Sometimes, work brings us the fulfillment and appreciation we lack at home. When we feel like the world’s worst mama, work takes away the sting of home.

4 questions to ask working mothers:

  1. What does work mean to you?

    This is your chance to identify what role work plays in your life. Does it allow you to use your gifts, develop relationships, or have fun?

  2. How is work filling emotional voids in your life?

    For some of us, work is the place where we feel needed and appreciated. At home we doubt ourselves. We say the same thing 100 times every day but the kids still can’t seem to put their dirty clothes in the hamper. It feels like a losing battle.

  3. What are your unique gifts and talents?

    We each have a unique set of gifts and talents. This is what makes us so valuable. There’s no one else who can do things exactly like us or see the world like we do.

  4. How can you serve others?

    When we combine the best of what work means and how we’re wired, we work for even greater reasons. No matter where we work, we can serve others.

Take some time to consider your answers? For many of us, even when work feels hard or overwhelming, it’s still worth it.

Everything is a trade-off. We land our dream job but miss the spring orchestra concert for a last-minute trip. Maybe you passed up that job offer to stay home a little longer. Good and bad walk hand-in-hand.

Kelly Shank
Kelly Shankhttp://kellybeckleyshank.com/
Kelly Beckley Shank encourages women to pursue extraordinary dreams in the midst of ordinary motherhood. Her journey from “dream job” to writer includes some very unlikely stops in Guatemala and grad school that have completely changed her family. Her blog inspires unapologetic motherhood where women are not ashamed to talk about their dreams beyond motherhood while also offering helpful tips to lessen the chaos in our homes. Join her at http://kellybeckleyshank.com, on Facebook atwww.facebook.com/kellybeckleyshank,  or on Instagram @kellybeckleyshank.

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