We have a long-lasting marriage for many reasons, but the biggest reason is that we went into our marriage knowing this was it. There is no walking away. There is no calling it quits. We knew when we said “I do” it was forever, and we would grow old together–loving and enjoying each other. Forever and ever, Amen.
Til death do we part!
And, that’s just what we are doing. Plus, there is that love thing!
You can’t go into a marriage thinking a divorce is an option if this doesn’t work.
And, you also can’t think there might be someone else out there for you if this marriage goes sour. My friends and I have always joked that there might be other men, but they all burp and they all fart, and you would just be trading in, not up.
In other words, keep what you have and work at the relationship. Make it perfect and happy for the two of you. Forever.
You will have fights. You will have moments when you drive each other crazy. We are all human, and we are all riddled with complicated issues and behaviors. We are all a bit selfish. But, the point is to be the best roommate, best friend, lover, and life partner you can be and hope the one sleeping next to you forever will do the same.
Our marriage is not perfect, but 32 years ago, I met my best friend. I married him 31 years ago, and now we are starting our 32nd year of wedded bliss.
What is wedded bliss? Usually thought of as supreme happiness, utter joy or contentment. Bliss is also perfect happiness or great joy. I doubt that married bliss is 24/7 for most couples. Like I said–we are all human. There is no such thing as perfect, so going into marriage with your reality in check will help you to not be disappointed.
We are not perfect and our marriage is not perfect. We have had the lowest lows and the highest highs. I learned more about my love for Mark in the lows. I learned that I will be in this with him forever.
Life and marriage are not all fun and games. I learned in the lows, more so than ever, this is real. Often you learn more from the bad times, than the good. This is us. Good and bad, forever.
Thankfully, I can say I have been happy, utterly happy, in my marriage, and I strive to stay that way for another 31 plus years.
Going into the marriage knowing you will be together forever is only the beginning. Here are a few more great tips for a long-lasting marriage. These tips are obvious, but must be a priority.
