Boys like to play rough, and as moms it can be difficult to watch. When my boys are scrapping with each other, I like to break it up to make sure no one gets hurt. Dr. Jantz says that boys learn by fighting each other. Moms want to intervene but our sons are just playing and having fun.
He warns about trying to keep our boys from experiencing any kind of harm. He says that our boys learn from natural consequences so much more than from lectures. We need to remember that if our son gets a scrape on his knee it isn’t going to kill him, and it will teach him to go about things differently next time.
Boys and girls are very different from each other. And that’s a good thing. God has specifically created us so that our differences will compliment each other. If you’re interested in learning more about your sons, I highly recommend the book Raising Boys by Design by Dr. Gregory Jantz and Michael Gurian.
Sometimes it’s hard for moms of boys to understand what’s going on in the minds of our sons. It’s very apparent that they don’t think the same way that we do! But when we attempt to learn about how their minds work and learn how to best connect with them, we will be much more successful at building strong relationships with our sons and helping them to feel confident and comfortable in themselves.
This article originally appeared at Michelle’s blog.